From the article: Bickering Isn't Healthy for You or for Your Marriage
You probably know that bickering isn't good for either your marriage or your health, yet you and your spouse still bicker. What do you bicker about and what are you doing to stop bickering? Share Your Methods
PathChoice Ministry, Kinston, NC
- When you find yourselves bickering, rush to be the first to forgive. Win at forgiving.
- —Guest Ev Dove
With Love
- Whenever my husband of two years and I get into an argument, we usually do 1 of 2 things: either one of us will start laughing and joking about how ridiculous we both look, arguing about something so mundane, or one of us will start kissing and loving on the one who is arguing, because, as my husband says, "it's hard to fight with yourself." Works every time!
- —Guest kim
How to Stop Bickering
- You don't always have to be right verbally. You don't always need your spouse to back you up that you are right. When you are wrong swallow the pride and say so. Ut will help him or her do so faster.
- —Guest tallytowneades@aol.com
Stop Bickering
- My husband and I had gotten in the habit of bickering. It had gotten so bad I started making plans to leave. We would bicker for any and all reasons. I did not like the grandchildren seeing and hearing this so I knew in order to make a difference I would have to make a stand no matter how much it would hurt. I told my husband our marriage would be over if this behavior kept up. I told him it was okay for us to disagree but our differences is what makes us who we are. We talked for a long time and I could see it was going to be a long evening. After a couple of hours and a lot of time outs my husband came to me crying. I held him tight. We cried together and prayed. Since that evening our bickering has stopped. We stay calm when we are discussing the children or grandchildren .. . or we are just talking. It's great knowing we can talk again, and I plan on doing my part to keep things on the right path.
- —Guest Laura
be in the now
- I tell myself to be in the now, if you think about things you will create problems. So if something is bothering you face it now(be in the moment). If you do this and then let the other person respond or just listen you can move on. The problem is over and is in the past and has no more energy. So be in the now.
- —Guest Richard Hersey
