Every married couple will come face to face with some forks in the road. What forks in the road have you faced together? Readers share their stories.
- I am at a fork in the road right. I have given up on caring what my husband thinks or feels. I have been asking for years for him to do some very minor things for me to keep this marriage going. Those minor things have snowballed into a gigantic mess. I am considering all my options rigt now to stay or leave. Its amazing how one thing left unresolved can lead into another and another until your at a point of doubt on whether you can come back from this mess. We have tried counseling numerous times. Sometimes he came sometimes he didn't but I was always there. I think the fork is there and I know which way to go but figuring things out financialy and physically is rough. No one wants to go down this road or think about going down this road.
- —Guest rachel
- A few days before my husband and I were supposed to get married, I found out he had been sending sexual text messages to his ex-wife. She instigated them and was the one who showed them to me, but he was still at fault. After a long time and one canceled ceremony later, we worked things out. It was hard and trusting him is something he knows will not ever be a "given" again. He has done a great job of keeping things up front with me since then. If he hadn't been willing to take it seriously and do what he needed to make it work, I would have shown him the door. I know that he is far from perfect, but I wouldn't trade him. Sometimes I think that moment was needed to teach us both something about the other. For me, it taught me that I cannot blindly accept everything will be okay, I need to keep my eyes open. For him, it taught him that when I said something, I really meant it. There are some things that are true deal breakers. He almost crossed that line.
- —Guest Sandy
What is Infidelity?
- My husband went on a 12-day motorcyle trip last summer. He told me minimal about what he would be doing and how long he would be gone. I knew he would have a very good time, but I wasn't expecting the women he would be partying with, great concerts, and a female "friend", the wife of one of the guys he went with, who flashed her breasts for shots everynight in front of my husband and others. I feel betrayed, cheated, & lied to. I also feel that my husband was unfaithful to me, even though I don't think he had sex with any woman. We have been going to counseling for several months, and I am going through all the feelings a wife goes through if her husband has had an affair. The motorcylce trip to Sturgis and Buffalo Chip was a first and totally out of character for my husband. He was offered the chance to go and quickly made a decision without the two of us discussing it much. We have been married for 31 years. Am I right to feel I was betrayed and that my husband had an "affair"?
- Through our 22 years together, we have had to face many forks in the road. I think the toughest was going through bankruptcy. The blaming one another for our financial problems nearly tore us apart.
- —Guest Beth