Military, Marriage, Parents
- I am 19 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years is 20. He just got out of basic training and will be stationed in AZ for a year. I am 16 hours away in Texas and we want to get married. I am very close to my family and my parents married young, 19 & 20 as well, and have been married in the military life for 20 years. They do not approve and are very much against me getting married before I finish school. I have about a year and a half-2 years left for my BA. I know I am going to marry him eventually and we do not want to wait but it hurts to go against my parents wishes. I am so conflicted. Will they ever forgive us if we get married? Editor's Note: No one can say if your parents will forgive you or not, but it is important for you to realize you are an adult now. The decision to marry is yours and not your parents' decision.
- —Guest OK
What Should I Do?
- Hi i am 16 and my boyfriend is 19 almost 20. We love each other a lot, and he asked me to marry him. My mom agrees but my dad don't. I am with him all day everyday and never at home. I asked my mom to let me move in with him and she won't let me. I don't know why she won't let me move out when I am never at my house. What should we do about marriage? should we wait till I am 18 or what?? We love each other so much and can't wait to get married, and then later on have a family of our own. Today we have been going out for 8 months. I think we are ready to start our life together, what about you? Editor's Note: Your mom is probably concerned about the legal aspects of you moving in with your boyfriend. You would be putting him in legal jeopardy. Wait until you are of legal age or until your dad is willing to give his okay to your marriage.
- —Guest Christina
Help Me Out
- I am 18 and my bf is 21. We want to get married but my parents are against it and they stop me from meeting him and lock my room at night and even in the morning I am not allowed to go anywhere. I am forced to stay in my house all the time. I can't live like this. Please help me out please. Editor's note: If you are truly imprisoned in your parents' home, since you are an adult, and you have access to a computer or a telephone, contact the police or a woman's shelter.
- —Guest sneha
Please I Need Advice
- I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 17, he will turn 18 in 2 months. We have been dating for a year and a half and he recently asked me to marry him. We want to get married 7 months from now but we are terrified of what our parents are going to say since we both think it won't go very well, we both doing a year at the community college and will be transfering to universities that are about 45 min. from each other. We are very much in love and very mature, he has a car and a job and we don't want to have kids anytime soon, at least 7 years. Although we both would be adults we would like to have our parents consent. How should we talk to them about getting married?? Are we making the right decision??? Editor's Note: I would advise that you wait until you both are finished with your educational plans. If you are going to get married, be honest with your parents and let them see your maturity in what plans you have made to pay your bills including your college education costs, where you will live, etc.
- —Guest cristy
Advice
- My boyfriend is 19 and I'm about to turn 18. We've been together for 5 years (puppy love) and I had to move out of state. My parents don't really like him but they understand and don't have a problem with our relationship. We want to get married so that means I'd have to move aways from my parents and I really love my life right now but I love him more! And I want to spend my life with him and share everything, even though I will dissapoint my parents :( People often tell me that teen marriage always ends up in a divorce and things like that and it gets me so scared ... what should I do?? None of my friends or cousins like him and his friends don't like me, everybody is going to be against us ... Editor's Note: Have you asked yourself why your parents, your friends, and your cousins all don't like your boyfriend? That many people having a dislike for someone is rather extreme. I hope you delay getting married for awhile.
- —Guest Ana
Worried About My Parents
- I am 18 years old and my boyfriend is 21. He is working and I'm in a learnership. He wants to marry me and I don't know what to do because I'm scared that maybe my parents will be disappointed. Please help and we have been dating for 1 month 3 weeks. Editor's Note: Marrying someone after dating for less than 2 months is not a good idea. Wait a year.
- —Guest Grace
A Relationahip on The Rock
- My amazing boyfriend (17) and I (16) have been dating for a little over a year now! (yay!!). Having a relationship for over a year in high school is not a common thing! Ladies, I suggest you pray constantly about the right guy ... God has that perfect man for you! So don't give up! Guys, read the bible and get an understanding on how to treat a lady in the right way! A Christ centered relationship will last or if we ever break up, I know for a fact, there's someone better and everything will be alright!
- —Guest :) wow!
Needing Options
- I'm 17, my boyfriend is 18, we currently live in California, and have been dating for over a year and a half now. I might be pregnant, we're not 100% sure. He is actually almost excited about it, and wants to marry me as soon as possible. I'm a little more hesitant since we're both so young, but we do love each other very much, there is NO hesitation that I could very easily and happily spend the rest of my life with this man. And with the possibility of a baby on the way I would need his love and support more than anything else. His mother is willing to help us if need be, but I would probably get kicked out of my house where I live with my father and try to find refuge with my mom. As far as I can tell, since I'm 17 we just need our mothers to be present if we try to apply for a marriage license? What else should I know? What else can I do to make this situation work? I'm ready to accept responsibility for my actions, and he is more than willing and able to love and take me. Editor's Note: The last I heard, if either the bride or groom is under 18, at least one of the minor’s parents, or legal guardian, must appear with the couple. Certified copies of birth certificates are required. The couple must also schedule an appointment with a counselor and then appear before a California superior court judge.
- —Guest Needing Options
Married
- My parents want me to get married when I finish school, but I like to go at university. What should I do? Editor's Note: Continue to try to convince your parents of the importance of you continuing your education before you get married.
- —Guest Mohammed
Belief
- You clearly speak with your upcoming life partner about your aims, feelings, your nature,hobbies & share something you want. First you believe in your partner. Ask him/her about their feeling as above. Spend some time with your partner to know him/her very clear & neat. You also listen carefully to his/her talking. You believe them that you will be a good partner for his/her.
- —Guest shweta borse
Teens!
- It's really a big responsibility for you to hold but if love exists, don't be scared and may God bless you!!
- —Guest lama
Day One of Stress
- I'm 17 & my bf is 18. We've been together for years now. About 6 years. It started off as puppy love but with all the time we put into each other we've been talking about taking it to the next level. He asked me to marry him in August. I said yes of course. My parents are fine with it. But his mom on the other hand confused me! She said "I think it's great as long as Jesus approves". What does that mean? How should I feel about that response? That made me second guess on everything...
- —Guest Bonnie
What Can I Do?
- I'm 19 going to be 20 in 2 months and my gf is 16 going to be 17 in 1 month. Is there anything we can do to get her to move in with me and allow us to get married? I have a stable well paid job, reliable transportation for both and my own place to live ... please tell me if there's anything we can do .... also we live in Texas. Editor's Note: You are placing yourself in legal jeopardy without getting married by having written parental consent on an official form in the presence of the county clerk or if you have received an order from the Texas district court authorizing your marriage.
- —Guest what do i do
Be the Best You Can Be First
- Before you marry, it is wise to become the best person you can be first. It may mean finishing school, settling into your career getting to know yourself first. The No.1 mistake couples make is thinking the other person will make you happy. It is not true. If you are going into marriage thinking this way, please re-think this. No one can make you happy, only you, it comes from within. Your spouse should be able to "support" you on your endeavors, but not be counted on to make you happy or feel whole.
- —Guest Debbie
Young Love
- Well I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19 and we've been together for 4 years now. I'm a freshman in college and he just recently went to the military. With him going away we've had alot of time to think and realize how life would be without each other in a way. So he mentioned how he wanted to get married and before all of this he wasn't too open with that subject but now he's proud to say it. And of course everyone is telling us were young and should wait but we feel we're ready and with him being in the military it will cover a lot. And I plan to stay in school -- just transfer whenever we make the big move! I just wanted advice on if it's wrong to feel this way? And should we go through with it and say forget the statistics ???? Editor's Note: At 18 and 19, you are both of legal age to get married. Another plus is that you've been together for four years and plan on continuing your education. I wish you both much happiness and thank your fiance for his service to our country.
- —Guest Tee
