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Readers Respond: Ways to Tell If Your Spouse is a Liar

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How do you know if or when your spouse is lying to you? How can you tell if your spouse lies? What method do you use to learn if your spouse is a liar? Share Your Suggestions

Lying

Caught my husband for the Nth time cheating, lying, gaslighting and playing the blame game. I'm done. I need out once and for all! Trust me, a tiger doesn't change their stripes. Once a lying cheat, always a lying cheat.
—Guest razedinaz

Ways To Tell If Your Spouse Is a Liar

My husband has slowly turned into a constant liar, it is ruining our marriage. But he insists I've turned into a b***. I kept quiet for a very long time. You learn more by listening, when you hear a story and its different each time you know its bs. Friends have told on him without even realizing. The biggest thing is my gut reaction, I've heard people laugh at that, but I know for a fact. He sent a text, I was waiting for him, for two hours and soon as I read his text, I knew lie. Kept quiet, within two days he told on himself. The saddest part, I put up with it for years, I didn't accuse him, I didn't want to hurt him???!!! I'm over that eyes wide open moving on. No matter how much you love someone, you can only take so much hurt, I can't live with a man I cannot trust.
—Guest Guest Ariel

Constant Liar

I've been with my husband now for 11yrs and I have been through so much pain .. the lying and cheating, I've caught him on so many dating sites, porn sites, also creating relationships from work with different females. If I had the evidence right in his face he would still deny. I've forgave him so many times because I Love him but he doesn't know how to be truthful, I think he needs help but I don't know how .. i keep blaming myself but it's him hurting me and our children .. how to trust I don't know ...
—sasha1985

I'm a Liar

I have lied multiple time to my wife about Dumb things, over the course of 8 years and when she catches me in the lie. I have acted just like some of the comment you women have said above. But I believe this time is different, She is think about leaving me, and she has full right to. But I have truly looked at myself and realized I didn't take responsibility before. I don't want to repeat this pattern again. So could you give me some advise on how to possible regain her trust? I want to change but, She says she will give me a chance. But is going to put behind her, not to forget it but to forgive me and allow me to rebuild her trust? Would any of you believe me, I see that's is what I have been doing. I know its not going to be easy but I want to change. Editor's Note: It will take time for her to trust you again. This article may help. http://marriage.about.com/cs/trustissues/ht/rebuildtrust.htm
—Guest JReid

Heart Breaking

My husband lies about his business trips, when questioned he loses his cool and when I make accusations he says it's my fault, always my fault. He 'trips himself up' with his lies, it breaks my heart but I've got 5 kids and not enough evidence! The really sad bit is that I love him with all my heart, always have and always will.
—Guest Annie

Liar Liar Pants on Fire

I married the Biggest liar or all time cheats, Drinks and is 100% narcist. Didnt see any of this till 3 years ago married 15. Now everyday I just want to end it all and move on with my life. i hate this man with all his stupid lies. hes had many chances to come clean once and for all and each time he chickens out! At this point the lies make me angrier than the truth!
—Guest believer of all lies..aka Doormat

Deer In the Headlights Look

My wife gets the classic deer in the headlights look. She thinks she's getting away with something. Hee hee!
—Guest mrbill78

How to Tell a Lie

Your gut tells you the truth, believe in it. You just know a lie when you hear one. Do your research, google how to tell when someone is lying, you will see what guidelines the police use. SPY! Nothing to me felt worse than not knowing the truth. Wanting to believe I was worth the truth.
—destroyed_by_emotional

All the Above and More ...

Hubby's done all of the above. He accuses me of being jealous if I ask questions about anything or anyone. It's like I am to believe him even when it's obvious he is lying. Once a woman in a bar talked about the great times they spent together and sorry she didn't write; to please get a cell phone, everyone has one. He ignored her. So I said he acts that way sometimes and she verbally attack me about interfering with her and her friends conversation. I said I was just trying to help her out because she seemed concerned that he was not talking to her. She ask what concern it was of mine and I said I was not sure but I should know how he acts because we had been married 20+ years. She put her fist in her mouth and ran out of the business. He says he didn't know her and she was drunk. Then there's the woman he held hands with at a play. By evenings end she was rubbing his crotch. In front of everyone. He said she was drunk & he did nothing wrong. It's getting old & so am I.
—Guest bonnie

Going Quiet

My x partner would go guiet when confronted, and within minutes do the clear of the throat and the hmmm business and then he would make the retreat to the bathroom - cowards! lol.
—Guest annnie

Aha

...there are so many ways to tell. Mine has done all those things, and more. And most of the time, it's over stupid stuff I would not get mad about to begin with.
—wendysfool

Belly Button Test...

Experts say that a man or woman will turn their lower body away from you when they're lying. Make sure he/she is facing you head-on (no sitting) when you question them. Works everytime.
—Guest pookie

Staring At You Without Blinking

Most people say that eye contact, being able to maintain it that is, is an indication of honesty. I have experience with individuals who maintain a fixed stare, (it feels like they are glaring at you in a direct challenge) when they are telling lies. Something to consider. Usually the face is rigid and unkind. Hope that helps. :)
—Guest Jane

Women Are Evil

I can tell most of the time when my wife doesn't want to tell me some thing the truth about some thing and here's 3 ways I can tell. (If I ask her a question about some thing) 1 she looks at me quickly kinda nervously and say what or who dear and tells me a story and giggles. Or 2 she gets irritated and starts arguing about some thing completely off topic and tries to piss me off. Or 3 she acts really busy and says can we talk about this later.
—Guest Trenton

Nail on Head

My wife has gone through about all of those actions ... she used to be an angel ... now evil.
—Guest matt

Hate Men LOL

I can tell when my husband is lying because he starts to get mad an looking away and walking away!
—Guest Jenifer

Trust My Gut

I just trust my gut. My husband does avoid looking me in the eye when he lies and he easily mixes up what he is telling me, so those are signs too. But I mainly listen to what my fluttery tummy tells me.
—Guest Jillian

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