Taming Bridezilla
Bridezilla: A woman who, in the course of planning her wedding, exercises or attempts to exercise a high degree of control over all or many minor details of the ceremony and reception. www.wiktionary.org
I have always rejected the notion that "bridezilla" would ever apply to me. I'm someone who rolls with the punches, stays grounded even in chaos, and warm even in the ugliest circumstances ... boy was I wrong.
It started with a few wedding related phone calls, each one more unsatisfying then the last. "I'm sorry, you were misinformed" or "No, it's going to be twice that expensive."
With each disappointing call I grew more impatient, my fuse just long enough to dial the next number (before throwing the phone at the wall). The whole time I wanted to scream "Just give me what I want!" Like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, it just wasn't me on the phone anymore.
There was nothing I could do but ground myself from making any wedding related calls for at least two days. I had to get my sanity back. Luckily it worked.
I can't promise bridezilla is gone for good, but I think I've beat the beast at her own game. Hah! If there's one thing that can keep her at bay, it's a happy bride. The secret is smiling (even when desperation starts to creep in). Now I pick up the phone, plaster a huge grin on my face and refuse to frown no matter what I hear. So far so good.
Comments
Well on the plus side your invitations are lovely, just got mine yesterday! You should put a pic of one on the blog so people can see.
run .. run like hell .. if u aren’t happy now you wiol not be later .. thought that I’d (we would) be different .. we aren’t. If you don’t run I wish you the best … but remember if you do’t run and it gets worse and you’re committed (assuming that means something great to you) you coiuld have ran and you didn’t … I myself I’m tryin to remember why I didn’t run … he was just as much a procrasinator and self-centered good human being a person could be a year ago when I said yes so why asm I 2nd guessing that yes? Because he is the SAME procrasinator and self-centered good human being he was a year ago .. if you can’t imagine living with this down the road, run , run like hell!
Please know I am a wonderful good person with a great education that many love and look up to .. I’m not a nut or a razy woman lookin for mr. perfect. …. just a womain in her 30s who get hit all all the time by men sho has NO idea how great I reawlly am IN MY HEART .. if they did, gosh knows what they would do
Its all worth it. All the hassel, the sleepless nights wondering if it will all fall into place, all the decision making, all of it is worth it. Our wedding was July 1st, it was low budget, high stress, and it was perfect (Men in kilts, what more can I say). It all came together in the end, even though things did go wrong, neither my husband or I noticed, all we could see was how much fun everyone was having and that we had gotten our Scottish Highlands wedding.
So Bridezilla or not, just make sure you don’t get so wrapped up in all the details that you lose sight of what the day is really about, you and your husband to be. So long as you both enjoy the day nothing else really matters.
This is pre-Bridezilla: http://www.tangomag.com/tangovideos?videoId=1459158698