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Share your holiday decisions. How do you handle the holiday tug of war that hurts many couples? Do you rotate holidays, spending one holiday with her family and the next holiday with his family? Do you stay home? Do you escape to a tropical island?

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He Knew How to Love Her

Tuesday December 15, 2009
While we were researching the 66-year marriage of Evelyn and Oral Roberts, one quote said a lot about their long term marriage.
Evelyn: "There are two things he [Oral] can do and one of them is preach. And the other one is he knows how to love me. Thank the Lord he does because there are very few other things he knows how to do."
Source: David Edwin Harrell, Jr. Oral Roberts: an American Life. 1985. pg. 351.

Oral also mentioned things that Evelyn did that gives the impression that she knew how to love him, too. It appears that the couple had a sense of humor too.

Knowing how to love one another is so very vital in a marriage. Do you know how to love your spouse?

No Matter What

Tuesday December 15, 2009
Some couples place a very high value on unconditional love in their marriage. Are they being realistic?

Don't we all have a line that can't be crossed, something that we would consider a deal breaker in our marriage? For some, it may be physical abuse, for others it could be something like child porn or infidelity.

What about you? Do you believe in unconditional love in your marriage, no matter what? Is this something you and your spouse have talked about?

Indefinite Break?

Saturday December 12, 2009
Tiger Woods announced today he is taking an "indefinite break" to help save his marriage with Elin Nordegren.

Give me a break.

Really now. Do average people who cheated on their spouses have the luxury of taking an indefinite break from work to focus on "being a better husband, father, and person" and to give more attention to their marriage?

Actually, do cheaters even need to be with their spouses 24/7 for an indefinite period of time to save their marriages? Do their spouses want them around 24/7 during the healing process? Probably not. There's a lot to be said for having some time alone now and then.

We hope he is sincere about doing what he has to do to save his marriage after the affairs, but if Tiger can't work on his marriage while fulfilling his other obligations, what does that say? Just considering the economic impact on the golf industry of his hiding away for awhile, isn't Tiger Woods' decision to take this break from golf just another sign of his selfishness?

What We Read Today

Thursday December 10, 2009
As we read articles on the Internet, some touch our hearts, some tick us off, some fascinate us, some give interesting information, some provide meaningful quotations, some affirm what we believe, some challenge us, and some teach us something new. One of these articles ticked us off. Can you guess which one? Read more...
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