What do people mean when that say this?
This forum post by Carol gives an interesting opinion.
"(Ok, I've wondered what people meant when they say they love their husband but they are not in love with them. )
Your entire post was a really good one. Hopefully it'll give her something to think about. Sounds like she's just staying with him for the security but if I were THAT unhappy I'd have been gone a long time ago.
I mainly just wanted to comment on the part of your post above. I've often wondered about that too. I often think that 'love' has degrees. We can look at your partner and get those overwhelming feelings of 'gushiness' and think how much we love and adore someone...that's the 'in love' feelings. Other times we can look at our partner and feel affection, caring and just know we 'love' them. Other times we can look at them and not feel much of anything, at least not conciously, but we still know we 'love' them, I think people sometimes think if they just 'love' someone but don't feel the 'in love' feelings, that it's all gone and there's nothing left. Emotions can, and do, sometimes change by the day, hour and minute but if we really LOVE someone we will love them all the time, even without the 'gushiness' and it won't mean we aren't 'in love' with them anymore. Just a matter of degree.
Just my thoughts but I think about this often since it's a number one reason for people to break up. Or seems like it.
ETA: Not only does it sound like the OP isn't 'in love' with her husband but I don't think she 'loves' him either, no matter what she says."
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