Here are questions to ask yourself to determine if you are being abused.
- Does your spouse scare you and make you feel fearful?
- Has your spouse threatened to kill you?
- Do you think you can never do anything right or please your spouse?
- Have you ever been hit, pushed, choked, had your hair pulled, or been slapped by your spouse?
- Does your spouse yell at you or tell you that you are worthless or no good?
- Do you believe you have to tip-toe around your spouse to prevent an outburst of anger?
- Does your spouse try to limit the amount of time you spend with friends and family or on the phone or Internet?
- Does your spouse make you do things you don't want to do?
- Have family or friends expressed their concern about your relationship?
- Are your children afraid of your spouse?
- Do you believe you deserve the abusive treatment you receive?
- Do you realize you are abused but don't know where to get help?
- If you answered yes to several of these questions, please contact your local domestic abuse shelter. They can help you determine your options and will assist you in finding a safe place to stay while you sort things out.
- Make an emergency kit that you can easily grab. It should have money, checkbook, credit cards, health records, school information, birth & marriage certificates, driver's license, social security numbers, house & car keys.
- Do not tolerate abusive behavior from your spouse. It won't go away by denying it. The situation will only grow worse. Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
- Another source of help is the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233) or 800-787-3224 (TTY). Help is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
What You Need
- Honest Self Appraisal
- Courage to Seek Help
- Belief in Your Own Self Worth
- Understanding of Why You May Stay in an Abusive Relationship