Marriage Can Survive Infidelity
Marriage can survive infidelity. It's not easy. It hurts.There will probably be anger, tears, and depression. It will take time to heal. It will take a decision to trust again.
It will take the cheater taking responsibility and not blaming his/her spouse for the affair. It will take courage. It will require commitment from both of you to save your marriage.
We make these statements because our marriage did survive unfaithfulness. Our crisis happened in our eighth year of marriage and the result was a really nasty, hurtful, and expensive divorce. A year and a half later, we re-married each other. We've now been married over 40 years.
So, yes, we believe a marriage can survive an extra-marital affair. But ONLY if both partners are willing to acquire and use the communication skills necessary to making their marriage successful.
Feelings Often Surrounding Marital Infidelity
Some feelings that are prominent when a couple experiences cheating in their marriage include:- Shame
- Guilt
- Blame
- Anger
- Hurt
- Disappointment
- Rage
- Embarrassment
- Forgiveness
- Jealousy
- Lust
- Resentment
- Denial
- Mis-trust
Some Marriages Should Not Be Saved
Your marriage can survive this onslaught of feelings. However, some marriages are not meant to be saved.If the infidelity is one of many symptoms of domestic and/or emotional abuse in your relationship, or if your spouse is a serial cheater, it may be time to throw in the towel.
