Wives:
- Accept that you can't change your husband. You can only change your response to the situation.
- Try to convince your husband to see a physician.
- If you are the chef in the family, cook healthy foods and watch your husband's intake of carbohydrates and fatty foods.
- Don't blame yourself for your husband's low libido. It has nothing to do with the way you look, or how much you weigh, or your sexual performance, etc.
- Talk with your husband about your sexual desire and concerns. Have this conversation outside of your bedroom in a non-threatening way.
- Work with your husband to create time alone together.
- Make time together a priority.
- Do something for yourself. Start taking care of you and find ways to make yourself happy.
- Remember how wonderful you are. It doesn't matter what your husband's issues are. They are his issues. Don't own them. Give them back to him and make yourself healthy.
- Don't expect immediate results.
Husbands:
- Eat healthy foods such as fruits and vegetables and watch your fat and carbohydrate content.
- Get enough sleep -- seven or eight hours per night.
- Exercise.
- Stop smoking.
- If you drink, drink in moderation.
- Consult a physician. Your loss of libido may be a symptom of a serious medical condition.
- Seek professional therapy to deal with your depression, inability to handle stress, unresolved conflicts and/or anger issues.
- Viagra probably won't help. The underlying problem needs to be addressed first.
- Talk with your wife about your sexual desire and concerns. Have this conversation outside of your bedroom.
- Work with your wife so that you have more time together alone.
- Make your time together a priority.
- Don't expect immediate results.
- If the problem is centered around your sexual orientation and your are gay or bisexual, be honest about this with your spouse.
No Desire for Sex or Help
Unless there is a medical reason, most individuals have some sexual desire. If your husband refuses to get professional help or refuses to work on this issue with you, he is being irresponsible and insensitive.Bottom line, he is probably saying that he is not interested in saving your marriage.
