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MARRIAGE CONNECTION NEWSLETTER
October 14, 1998
Sheri & Bob Stritof
Marriage Guides at The Mining Co.
http://marriage.about.com
Suggestions, questions, comments, complaints, tips, jokes, site suggestions and ideas
welcome at marriage.guide@about.com
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So where have we been?? Well, first we were experiencing some problems with the newsletter program. Then we did some major updating on the site. There are now 61 Net Link pages with lots of new topics. You can also review past Marriage Connection Newsletters at the Newsletter Link. We hope you enjoy the many changes to the site.
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Site of the Week - Why Relationships Last -
http://www.apa.org/releases/relation.html
- Psychologists say intimacy is the key.
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Chat Room - http://marriage.about.com/mpchat.htm
Although always open to you, and your family and friends... Sheri is host on most Wednesday nights from 5 to 6 pm. (Pacific Time)
NOTE - If you drop in and no one is there, type *beep
enter on and float the chat window. You can
go do something else and your computer will beep when someone enters the
room. Contact us if you would like to set up a chat schedule for your site or particular topic that
you would like to host. Email us if you
are having problems getting in.
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New Feature: - Name Change - http://marriage.about.com/library/weekly/aa093098.htm
- Many options open to couples today.
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Tip of the Week - If your spouse has to take a trip out of town, sneak some special toiletries into his/her suitcase. Hide love notes in pockets, sleeves, socks, etc. As your lover unpacks, thoughts of you will fill his/her heart.
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Feedback This Week: - Loneliness in Marriage - From "C" - on a listserve Sheri belongs to. This is in response to some other members' postings. We asked permission to reprint it here because we believe she hit the nail on the head.
"When I read your messages, I could feel exactly where you are. I was there about a year and a half ago. My husband and I had only been married for 1 1/2 years. It was awful. The only time I ever felt good was when I was away from him. He felt the same way. We couldn't afford therapy, so we had to try to do something on our own. I think our higher power turned us in the right direction. For some reason, we started to do things on our own, not really with other people, but just things that we enjoyed. We started to relearn who we were. I think we had gotten so demanding of each other because we each expected the other to give us all of our needs. We relearned that we have to give ourselves what we need from ourselves, and not expect someone else to do it for us. Now, we each had something to share with the other, ourselves and what we were interested in. We are really doing great now. I mean everything isn't always peaches and cream, but we're not constantly annoyed with each other. I look forward to going home and seeing him every weekend. And I really miss him during the week when I have to be away. We have a much more loving relationship because we are loving ourselves, and we want to share this with each other. I'm sorry if I'm not expressing this very well, and I don't know if it will help, but I just wanted to share and let you both know you are not alone."
If you have questions or answers, please email us at
marriage.guide@about.com
(Names will not be included unless specifically requested.)
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Message Boards - Have you checked out the Marriage Board? - http://marriage.about.com/mpboards.htm
The board is for marriage information so ask a real question, respond with an answer
you know, or post information about an aspect of marriage you are dealing with.
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Quote for this Week - by William Smith - "Love is not a matter of counting the years, it's making the years count."
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Joke for the Week - Young Son: Is it true, Dad, I heard that in some parts of Africa a
man doesn't know his wife until he marries her?
Dad: That happens in most countries, son.
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Anniversary Contest - http://marriage.about.com/library/blanniv.htm
- List your anniversary...can you beat a 1938 date? Did you have an unusual wedding?
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Right Click Trick - Having trouble bookmarking a site you find through
The Mining Co because the URL doesn't show? Right click your mouse and the page url you are viewing should
show in "view info", "view source" or "properties". Then you can copy it and book mark it. Makes life a bit easier.
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Thanks, as always, for visiting Marriage.
If there is something you are looking for in particular, let us know and we'll see what we can find on the net for you.
Continue to love one another.
Sheri and Bob
marriage.guide@about.com
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This Newsletter is copyrighted 1998 by Sheri Stritof and The Mining Co.
Feel free to distribute this Newsletter in its entirety to anyone who may be interested.
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