In The Lazy Husband, Joshua Coleman offers practical examples for wives who are struggling with a husband who won't do his share of chores around the house.
The author uses examples of couples working through his suggestions that are provided in this no-nagging guide to achieving a more balanced marriage relationship.
Being a man, Coleman targets how men think and ways to motivate them. He also is aware of how women feel when men don't do their fair share around the house. Women often feel taken advantage of, taken for granted, or feeling they are doing more than what is fair.
Types of Lazy Husbands:
Perfectionist Husband: "This husband wants the house and the kids to be perfect but doesn't want to do the work himself."
The Angry Husband: "This husband keeps his wife at bay with his irritability, anger, or intimidation."
All of these husbands need to experience the natural consequences of their decisions or lack of responsibility. Quit covering for them. Quit accepting their excuses.
Lazy Husband Excuses:
"I'm too tired to help."
"I don't know how."
"I contribute in other ways. I shouldn't have to do both."
- A healthy sense of entitlement.
- An expectation of change and cooperation -- even when it's not immediately forthcoming.
- A commitment to appreciate whatever it is that he's doing right in the marriage.
- A feeling of acceptance and compassion for who he is, regardless of whether he changes quickly or not.
Coping StrategiesOne suggestion for coping with a lazy husband is to eliminate some of the chores around the house such as:
- Simplify meals.
- Clean your house less frequently and less thoroughly.
- Don't bathe the kids every single day.
- Do encourage your kids to do more chores.