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The Importance of Compliments in Your Marriage

It's Not That Hard -- Once a Day -- Say Something Nice

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Make sure that you sincerely compliment your spouse at least once every day. Look for things you can comment on that you haven't mentioned before.

Impact of Compliments on Your Marriage

When you give sincere encouragement and compliments to your spouse, several things are accomplished.
  • Your spouse's self-confidence is increased.
  • Your own self-worth is increased.
  • The friendship between the two of you is strengthened.

The Difference Between Flattery and Compliments

It is important that your compliments are sincere and honest. When they are not, your comments turn into flattery which is untrue or insincere praise. Flattery is usually received with negativity and is often perceived as being manipulative.

Quotes About Compliments and Marriage

Steve Goodier: "Sincere compliments cost nothing and can accomplish so much. In ANY relationship, they are the applause that refreshes."
Source: Steve Goodier, Prescription for Peace.

Les and Leslie Parrott: "The most important element of romantic passion for both husbands and wives is to feel special. Not only do they want to feel sexually attractive to their mates, but they want to know they are appreciated. Compliments feel good--both to give and to receive. So, to paraphrase a James Taylor song, 'Shower the person you love with compliments.'"
Source: Les and Leslie Parrott, Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
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Gary and Barbara Rosberg: "Mark Twain once said, 'I can live a whole month on one compliment.' Just think about the life we can bring to a marriage with an ever flowing stream of affirmation. Hearty affirmation is a key ingredient in unconditional love. It's like a magnet: It draws us in; it attracts us."
Source: Gary and Barbara Rosberg, The 5 Love Needs of Men & Women
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Richard Carlson: "The power of a compliment or a few kind, sexy words can be overwhelming! Think back to all of the things that you used to say to your sweetheart when you were dating."
Source: Richard Carlson, The Don't Sweat Guide for Newlyweds: Finding What Matters Most in the First Year
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