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The Ten Most Important Questions to Ask Before You Get Married

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Deal Breaker Question #8 -- Abuse
8. Have you ever hit someone?

If your future spouse has anger management issues, or tries to control who you see and what you do, or is causing you to walk on egg shells, cancel your wedding.

These are signs of a potentially abusive personality. Don't think you can "save" him or her. You can't. This is a problem that needs professional counseling.

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