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Twelve Reasons to Dance With Your Spouse -- Connecting in Your Marriage

A Secret of Successful Marriages -- Dancing

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Dancing? A secret of successful marriages?

Yes!

With all the hype over "Dancing With Stars", and the popularity of the movie, Shall We Dance, more married couples are dancing with one another on a regular basis.

A Dozen Reasons to Dance With Your Spouse -- Connect Through Dance

Dancing promotes healthy living and romance. It doesn't make any difference what type of dancing the two of you do. Any style of dancing is beneficial.
  • Dancing together is an excellent way to exercise. "Depending on the step, ballroom dancing can burn anywhere from 250 calories to 400 calories an hour — about the same as a brisk half-hour walk on a treadmill, and the more demanding dances like the salsa, samba and cha-cha can be comparable to an intense session at the gym."
    Source: Ken Richards, at MSNBC.com
  • Dancing together is good for your heart, both physically and romantically.
  • Dancing together creates another way for the two of you to connect with each other. As you dance together, your eyes meet, your bodies are close together, you can feel one another breathing.
  • When you dance, you hold and touch one another for longer than a quick hug.
  • Dancing together can put you both in a sensual mood.
    "Holding, touching and moving to the music is the most romantic skill any couple can add to their lives."
    Source: Arthur Murray Las Vegas
  • Dancing can build your self-esteem which is good for your marriage relationship.
  • Dancing is sexy and can help stir up your inner sexuality.
    George Bernard Shaw: "Dancing is a perpendicular expression of a horizontal desire."
    Source: Quotations.about.com
  • Dancing lessons and going out dancing provides time alone for the two of you.
  • Dancing together requires the two of you to work together as a team.
  • Dancing is a fun activity that the two of you can enjoy together.
  • When dancing together you have to pay attention to one another and communicate both verbally and non-verbally with one another.
  • Making time to dance together gives the two of you time away from chores, children, job, and the stress of your lives.

Dancing Tips

  • Don't come up with an excuse to not dance. You can dance, no matter how old you are, how fit you are, how tall or short you are, or how large or small you are.
  • Wear comfortable, lightweight clothing. Your shoes should provide good support and should allow you to slide on the floor without sticking.
  • Make sure that the dance floor is not sticky, slick, or concrete.
  • Accept that as you begin to learn how to dance with your spouse, you both may be a bit klutzy. You will be more graceful with one another as you learn to move together with the music.
  • Let go of any desire to be a perfectionist about your dancing. Just enjoy dancing.
  • If your last dance lesson was in 6th grade, let go of that perception of a dance class, and sign up for dance lessons together.
  • If you are not already actively exercising, check with your physican before you start dance lessons.

How to Find Dance Lessons

  • Choose the style of dancing you want to learn.
  • Check out the adult education opportunties at your local community center. Many offer dance lessons.
  • Many health clubs and gyms are now offering dance-based classes.
  • Check the Yellow Pages for dance studios that offer ballroom dancing lessons.
  • If you are in the senior citizen age bracket, you can probably get free dance lessons at your local senior center.

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