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Ted Haggard and Gayle Alcorn Marriage Profile

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When Pastor Ted Haggard first responded about allegations of methamphetamine use and a 3-year homosexual relationship with a male prostitute, his response was denial.

Later when confronted with more evidence in support of the allegations, Haggard admitted to purchasing the crystal meth and having a massage. In 2011, Ted admitted to being masturbated by Jones.

Losing his job and his reputation was not only a punishment for Rev. Haggard, it was a heavy blow for his wife and children.

Here's information about the marriage of Ted Haggard and Gayle Alcorn.

News Updates:

2/2011: In an interview with Kevin Roose in GQ, Ted mentioned having services for St. James at Timberview Middle School cafeteria.

7/28/2010: Due to an increase in congregants and an inability to obtain liability insurance for meetings held in his barn, as pastor of St. James Church, Ted Haggard began holding services at the Pikes Peak Center in downtown Colorado Springs.

5/11/2010: With his wife Gayle, Ted Haggard incorporated their new church, the St. James. According to The Gazette, their church is primarily set up for tax purposes. It is located at their home in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

1/23/09: Haggard's sexual relationship with a young male church volunteer was disclosed. "[Brady] Boyd said an "overwhelming pool of evidence" pointed to an "inappropriate, consensual sexual relationship" that "went on for a long period of time ... it wasn't a one-time act."
Eric Gorski. "Disgraced pastor faces more gay sex accusations." SFGate.com. 1/23/2009.

6/23/08: Ted Haggard quit the recommended spiritual restoration program and counseling sessions early and moved back to Colorado Springs, Colorado with his family.

2/6/07: Saying he is not gay, Ted Haggard claimed he was a changed man after 3 weeks of intensive counseling. He planned on leaving Colorado Springs, continuing marriage counseling, and studying psychology online with his wife.

Born:

Ted Arthur Haggard: June 27, 1956 in Indiana.

Gayle Alcorn: Abt. 1957.

How Ted and Gayle Met:

Ted and Gayle met during Ted's senior year at Oral Roberts college when Gayle was a junior.

Wedding Date:

Ted and Gayle were married in 1978 after he graduated.

Children:

Ted and Gayle have five children: one daughter and 4 sons.

Residence:

In 2011, Ted and Gayle are living in the home in Colorado Springs they purchased in 2000, before the scandal.
Kevin Roose's description of their home: "... two-car garage, in-ground pool and hot tub, backyard trampoline, Ten Commandments light fixtures."
Source: Kevin Roose. "The Last Temptation of Ted. GQ.com. 2/2011.
In 2008, depending on which news report was read, Ted and Gayle lived in an apartment, or in a motel, or in a $700,000 home.
Source: Eric Gorski. "Ted Haggard, Disgraced Pastor, Returns as Christian Businessman." HuffingtonPost.com. 11/23/08.
Joe Garofoli: "... the only job he can get is as a traveling health insurance salesman. After several scenes of schlepping his family from motel to rented home of a friend to cramped apartment in a moving van, he eventually looks at the camera and says, "I'm a first-class loser."
Source: Joe Garofoli. "Trials of Ted Haggard: documentary of a fall." SFGate.com. 1/24/2009.

Occupations:

Ted Haggard: Insurance agent, speaker, former senior pastor of New Life Church, previous president of the National Association of Evangelicals. Haggard resigned both religious positions after the sex scandal. Ted Haggard did receive about $200,000 and "assorted other benefits" as severance.

Gayle Haggard: Gayle is an author, speaker.

Ted Haggard Sex Scandal -- November 2006:

An outspoken critic of gay marriage, Rev. Ted Haggard was considered a hypocrite by Michael Jones, the gay bodybuilder who said he had a three-year relationship with Haggard.
Ted Haggard: "We never had sex sex. I bought drugs and a massage from him, and he masturbated me at the end of it. That's it."
Source: Kevin Roose. "The Last Temptation of Ted." GQ.com. 2/2011.
Ted Haggard: "I did not have a homosexual relationship with a man in Denver. I am steady with my wife. I'm faithful to my wife."
Source: Time.com. 11/01/2006.
Michael Jones: "He's up there preaching to millions that gays shouldn't be allowed to marry while he's running around behind his wife's back having sex with a gay man."
Source: Denverpost.com. 11/03/2006.

Gayle: "I know your hearts are broken; mine is as well ... What I want you to know is that I love my husband, Ted Haggard, with all my heart. I am committed to him until death "do us part." We started this journey together and with the grace of God, we will finish together."
Source: NewLifeChurch.org. 11/5/2006.

Ted: "Gayle and I have given our lives to New Life Church and we'll be OK."
Source: Cnn.com. 11/03/2006.

Ted Haggard to church members: "... I am guilty of sexual immorality ... I am a deceiver and a liar ... I began deceiving those I love the most because I didn't want to hurt or disappoint them ... It is important that you know how much I love and appreciate my wife, Gayle. What I did should never reflect in a negative way on her relationship with me. She has been and continues to be incredible ... Gayle and I need to be gone for a while. We will never return to a leadership role at New Life Church."
Source: NewLifeChurch.org. 11/05/2006.
New Life Church Board: "... proven without a doubt that he [Ted Haggard] has committed sexually immoral conduct ... we have decided that the most positive and productive direction for our church is his dismissal and removal."
Source: New Life Church Press Release. 11/2006.

Quotes About the Marriage of Ted and Gayle Haggard:

Ted: "It's my responsibility to rebuild trust since I'm the one who screwed up."
Source: Kevin Roose. "The Last Temptation of Ted." GQ.com. 2/2011.

Ted: "I think that probably, if I were 21 in this society, I would identify myself as a bisexual ... I'm 54, with children, with a belief system, and I can have enforced boundaries in my life. Just like you're a heterosexual but you don't have sex with every woman that you're attracted to, so I can be who I am and exclusively have sex with my wife and be perfectly satisfied."
Source: Kevin Roose. "The Last Temptation of Ted." GQ.com. 2/2011.

Gayle Haggard on why she stayed: "The first is that I really do love this man. And I know that he's more than any complications, flaws and sins that he's committed. And the second reason is because of my faith."
Source: Haggard to King: I'm guilty enough of so many things." Cnn.com. 1/29/2009.

Ted: "I thought Gayle would leave me over this. Actually, I recommended that she leave me over this ... I've had a very satisfying relationship for 30 years with my wife. This did not happen because of dissatisfaction with Gayle. This happened because of something else going on inside of me."
Source: Haggard to King: I'm guilty enough of so many things." Cnn.com. 1/29/2009.

Patton Dodd: "... Mr. Haggard had close family ties, taking a Sabbath day at home every Saturday to be with his wife and five children."
Source: Nytimes.com

Ted: "I have thoroughly discussed my sex life with my wife and my therapist. I am very pleased with where I am today and I am completely contented with my relationship with my wife."
Source: Joe Garofoli. "Trials of Ted Haggard: documentary of a fall." SFGate.com. 1/24/2009.

wowOwow Staff: "Gayle, the wife of former Colorado New Life Church Pastor Ted Haggard, will tell Oprah Winfrey today that she knew about her husband’s same-sex struggles for years and had hoped he had a handle on things. But then, in 2006, their world came crashing down when a male prostitute came forward about a relationship with Haggard. "The first words out of my mouth were, ‘Who are you?’" she said, according to a publicity release issued Tuesday by Harpo Productions. Adding to the Haggards’ lack of marital bliss is the news this week that Haggard also masturbated in front of a then-22-year-old church volunteer in 2005."
Source: "Ted Haggard's Wife to Ophrah: I Knew About Gay Desires.". wowOwow.com. 1/28/2009.

Gayle: "I can't think of anything that would have been a greater shock to me, and, literally, I felt as though the rug had been pulled out from under me ... I was going to stay with Ted because, first of all, I love him deeply and I knew that we had a very real relationship. I choose to forgive him, and I choose to love him. I made the decision. Then I had to work it out. And that was the painful process for me."
Source: "Evangelist Ted Haggard, His Wife and the Gay Sex Scandal." Oprah.com. 1/28/09.

Time.com: "Haggard said he became suicidal but eventually emerged with a stronger Christian faith and marriage than he'd ever had. "My wife — all my sin and shame fell on her. People treated her as if she had fallen," he said. "And my children — they all went through carrying my shame. And I am so sorry that I did that to my family."
Source: "Disgraced Pastor: 'I Was Abused As a Child." Time.com. 11/12/08.

Ted about what he wanted out of life: "I want my finances in order, my kids trained, and my wife to love life. I want good friends who are a delight and who provide protection for my family and me should life become difficult someday ... I don't want surprises, scandals, or secrets ... I want stability and, at the same time, steady, forward movement."
Source: Dog Training, Fly Fishing, And Sharing Christ In The 21st Century: Empowering Your Church To Build Community Through Shared Interests, pages 8-9.

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