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Top 10 Ways to Create More Intimacy Today


Intimacy in your marriage involves more than having good sex. Intimacy is achieved when the two of you can share your thoughts, opinions, and feelings with one another.

Your marital intimacy is also strengthened when you two are spending time as a couple, having fun together, and surprising one another.

So do it! Do something today so you and your spouse can be more intimate!

1. Leave a Romantic Note for Your Spouse

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Although what you say in the love note is important, where you leave the love note is important, too!

2. Give a Small Gift ... Just Because You Love Your Spouse

Receiving or giving an unexpected gift is a true delight.

3. Take a Walk Together

Surprise your spouse with a long, romantic kiss and a suggestion to take a walk together.

Make sure you hold hands while you walk. Think about taking that walk in the moonlight on a pleasant evening or in a spring rain.

4. Watch a Romantic Movie

Snuggle together on the couch with some popcorn and enjoy a romantic movie together.

5. Have a Picnic

Put a blanket on the floor in your bedroom and enjoy an intimate picnic with one another. Or go to a pretty park for the picnic, or have a Silly Supper instead of a picnic.

6. Get Frisky

Make out in the backseat of your car or rent a motel room close by your home. One night stands together are great!

7. Have a Lunch Date

Make some couple time for one another by scheduling a lunch date.

8. Have Fun Together

Whether it is going on a spontaneous trip, dancing, hiking, walking on a beach, washing your car, going antiquing, seeing a show, reading a book together, hosting a party for friends, etc., having fun together is critical for the success of your marriage.

9. Deepen Your Relationship

Making time to deepen your relationship with one another is a wonderful way to create intimacy in your lives. Try some of these activities. Also let your spouse know how important your marriage is to you by being open to setting goals together.

10. Say "I Love You"

Sure, you say "I love you" to your spouse in words - but there are other meaningful ways to say "I love you."

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