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What Men Want From Their Wives

Sex is generally listed first, but there are other things husbands want


In no particular order, here are ten things that many men often want from their wives. Note that these are "wants" -- not emotional needs. As individuals, we are each responsible for filling our own emotional needs.

We believe that the four basic emotional needs are the need to be loved and to love; the need to belong; the need for a good self-image; and the need for autonomy.

Related: What Women Want


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Photo: Lambada / iStockphoto
Sex! Men also want you to hold his hand in public, leave a message of love on his voice mail, massage his shoulders, give him an unexpected kiss, and flirt with him. Husbands like to be romanced too!

Believe in His Capabilities

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Photo: Daniel Rodriguez / iStockphoto
Many men believe it is important for them to protect and provide for those they love. Let your husband know that you believe in his talents and skills and are supportive of him.


Love Note
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One of the ways you can both tell and show your husband that you want to understand him is by making a commitment to daily dialogue with him. Daily dialogue only takes 20 minutes out of your day. Isn't your husband worth 20 minutes each day?


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Photo: Blackred / iStockphoto
Most guys like to be patted on the back. Compliment your husband often. Just don't over do it with sicky sweet oozes of how great he is. That type of affirmation can backfire.


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Many husbands are hurt and angered when their wives try to change them. Realize that the only person that you can change is yourself.

Less Chatter

Difficult Talk
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Don't yakety-yak all the time. If your husband is tired, or involved with a project, and you really want to talk to him about something, get to the point or schedule a time with him to have the talk.


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Photo: Janie Airey / Getty Images
Show respect for your husband by not making negative comments about his thoughts and opinions, by being considerate of his plans, and by avoiding the "eye roll" when listening to him.

Free Time

Free Time
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Most everyone has a desire for some quiet time alone, and time to re-energize, regroup, and reconnect. When your husband first gets home from work, allow him some free time to unwind. Don't over-schedule his days off with projects around the house.


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Photo: Philip and Karen Smith / Getty Images
Trust is vital in the success of a marriage. If you are having doubts about your husband and find it difficult to trust him, seek counseling -- not spying.


Having Fun Together
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Hopefully, you can say that your husband is not only your lover, but also your friend. Staying friends and companions through the years requires that you find ways to make time to be together and to do things together.

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