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What Women Want From Their Husbands

Knowing they are loved is tremendously important to wives


We focused this article on "wants" -- not emotional needs which include the need for some time alone, the need to believe in yourself, the need to belong, and the need to love and be loved.

These things that many women often want from their husbands are listed in no particular order or rank.

Related: What Men Want

Telling Her Daily That She is Loved

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Photo: George Doyle / Getty Images
Everyone wants to be affirmed. Everyone wants to know they are loved. The best ways to say "I love you" are usually in simple, everyday, seemingly unimportant ways like an unexpected hug or holding hands when you walk together.

Understanding and Forgiveness

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Photo: Troy Aossey / Getty Images
There will be days when your wife will make mistakes or when she will be difficult to be around. No one is perfect. She both wants and deserves your willingness to understand and forgive her. Remember that no relationship can be sustained without forgiveness.


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Photo: Rob Van Petten / Getty Images
Don't let your conversations with your wife dwindle to nothing but talk about your kids, your jobs, and the weather. There is lots more to talk about. If that happens, your marriage relationship could be in real trouble.

Make Time for Her and Your Children

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Photo: B2M Productions / Getty Images
Having quality time with your wife and kids isn't something that just happens. You have to make it happen by not only making the plans but by following through. Time with those you love has to be a high priority for you.

Say "Yes" More Than Saying "No"

Say "Yes" More Than "No"
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Habitual negative responses to your wife and kids can push them away from you. Think twice before saying "no" and you will be surprised at how saying "yes" can improve your relationships.

Listen Well

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Photo: Pinnacle Pictures / Getty Images
It's really disheartening for a wife to share her thoughts and feelings with her mate and then realize that he didn't actually listen to her. Your wife wants you to not only listen with your ears, but to listen with your heart.

Affection and Kindness

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Photo: Ebby May / Getty Images
How often do you say "please" or "thank you" or give your spouse an unexpected kiss? Unfortunately, some married couples forget that being kind and affectionate to one another are keys to a successful marriage.

Share Household and Child Rearing Responsibilities

Doing Chores
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One of the main reasons couples fight is conflict over who is doing what around the house. Chores and child care are not the sole responsibility of your wife. She shouldn't have to ask you to do your share around the house.

A Day Off Now and Then

Don't fuss about your wife taking a day off several times a month. This means that she will be free from worrying about what is happening with the kids, the house, the pets, and you. She deserves this break in her schedule and she needs to provide it for herself to be emotionally and physically healthy.

Commitment to Take Care of Yourself Both Physically and Emotionally

Healthy Living
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Many men are notorious for not taking care of themselves when it comes to health issues. This isn't fair to your wife. She is your lover -- not your mother. Take responsibility for your own health concerns.

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