News Updates:12/02/2011: First Vanessa Long announced she was getting a divorce, then she released a statement saying she agreed to "find healing" in her marriage with Bishop Eddie Long.
5/27/2011: Although he told his congregation in September 2010 that he would fight the gay sex allegations against him, Bishop Eddie Long decided "not to fight in court. Instead he reached a settlement and paid off the four young men who accused him of using his power to influence them into sexual relationships with him."
Vanessa Griffin: Abt. 1959 in Columbus, Georgia.
How Eddie and Vanessa Met:
Eddie: "I was sitting at the Supreme Fish restaurant in downtown Atlanta just minding my own business when God delivered my wife special delivery and paraded her past the window."
Source: Eddie L. Long. What a Man Wants, What a Woman Needs: The Secret to Successful, Fulfilling Relationships. pg. 21.
Vanessa: "When I went out with Eddie Long on that blind date, I had already decided I wouldn't go out with this preacher again. But he was so wonderful and made such an impact on me that I agreed to go out with him again. From that point on, the relationship really started to take off."
Source: Eddie Long. The Elect Lady: Life's Obstacles Become Godly Opportunities. 2008. pg. 146.
- Eric Long: Adopted by Eddie.
- Edward "Kodi" Long: His mother is Eddie's first wife, Dabara Houston.
- Jared Long: His mother is Vanessa.
- Taylor Long: Her mother is Vanessa.
Eddie: "A couple of days later I met a girl, and I swore up and down that she was from God. To make a very long story very short, on the day I delivered my first 'trial sermon,' I also introduced this woman to the congregation and said, 'God sent me this young lady.' After the wedding, we hadn't even left the church building before this woman turned to me and basically said, 'I just wanted to see if I could get you.' Our marriage lasted for three years, during which time a son was born to us. Although I still wanted to make our marriage work, my wife filed for divorce anyway, leaving me broken spiritually, emotionally, and in every other way you can think of."
Source: Eddie L. Long. Taking Over. 1999. pg. 4.
Eddie: "Many years ago when I was a newly divorced single parent, the first thing I had to do was go through a grieving process ... divorce did force its way into my life, and it changed everything. I did recover from my deep disappointment, but it took time, mercy, and a lot of grace."
Source: Eddie Long. The Elect Lady: Life's Obstacles Become Godly Opportunities. 2008. pg. 82.
Sex Scandal, Lawsuits, and Controversies:
Larry Hartstein: "The following year, the Atlanta Journal-Constitution reported that a charity Long created -- Bishop Eddie Long Ministries Inc. -- made him its biggest beneficiary, supplying him with at least $1 million in salary over four years, a $1.4 million home and use of a $350,000 Bentley."
Source: Larry Hartstein. "Bishop Eddie Long | Megachurch Had Modest Beginning." AJC.com. 9/22/2010.
Quotes About the Marriage of Vanessa and Eddie Long:
Source: Eddie Long. The Elect Lady: Life's Obstacles Become Godly Opportunities. 2008. pgs. 23-24.
Vanessa: "We had to really talk about the key problem areas -- and we had to listen carefully to hear what the other one was saying. So we changed what we could change, and we adapted where we had to. We set apart one night of the week as family night, and we had to put our family vacations 'on the calendar' to make sure they happened."
Source: Eddie Long. The Elect Lady: Life's Obstacles Become Godly Opportunities. 2008. pg. 149.
Eddie: "Finally, husbands and wives need to know each other in ways that foster mutual respect, love, honor, and joy in each other and in their homes."
Source: Eddie L. Long. What a Man Wants, What a Woman Needs: The Secret to Successful, Fulfilling Relationships. 2002. pg. 164.
Eddie: "In the natural, physical, and material world in which a wife lives with her husband, she must acknowledge her husband as the king of the house and the lord of the manor. She must respect his position of headship in the home. This yielding to headship is the basis on which a woman leaves her father's house and name and takes the name of her husband. Before my wife married, she was Vanessa Griffin because her father's name was Griffin. She's now Vanessa Long. She has come under my headship, my covering ... When a woman marries, she needs to take her husband's name and place her identification under his covering. If she isn't willing to accept the name of the one who is assuming the responsibility and authority for protecting her and providing for her, she shouldn't marry."
Source: Eddie L. Long. I Don't Want Delilah, I Need You! What a Woman Needs to Know, What a Man Needs to Understand. 1998. pg. 119.