According to our Marriage Qualities Survey, being dependable is one of the top ten qualities people look for in a spouse.
When you make a promise to your spouse or say you will do something for your spouse or family and then you don't keep your word, you are letting your spouse down and hurting your marriage.
Keeping your word and following through on your promises helps to reinforce the trust that your spouse has in you. Not keeping your word tells your spouse that you simply don't care.
Tips for When You Do Not Keep Your Word or Follow Through on Your Promises
- If you decide you can't keep your promise, be honest and say so. It is important that you are up front with the reason you can't keep your word.
- If you changed your mind and don't want to keep your promise, you need to be honest with your spouse about why you think you made the promise in the first place and why you don't want to keep your word.
- If you broke a promise because you are forgetful, consider using some of the high tech ways to be reminded of things you said you would do. You can receive email alerts, popup reminders from your calendar program on your computer, and receive text or voice reminder messages on your cell phone.
You can give your spouse permission to remind you, too, with the understanding that you won't consider the reminder to be nagging.