From the article: Chores, Chores, Chores
Do the two of you still play the 'chores war' game? That is when you argue over not only who does what chore around the house, but also when and how and why. What are your solutions for handling this topic that creates conflict in many marriages? How do you avoid the chore wars? Share Your Solutions
Go Hi-tech
- We use upsees.com to make sure everything with chores is fair. Amazingly it works.
- —Guest chad
War Games
- Love is great when you're both in it to win. The only question is which side are you on? Are you the enemy? If you are, your partner's enemy then a house divided against itself will never stand. Unity is strength. What a great gift to have someone to share your life with. Live it with love.
- —Guest BELLE
I Have Just the Thing For Chore Sharing
- It's called http://upsees.com. My roommates and I were ready to kill each other before we started using upsees. Now we live in peace!
- —Guest thighmister
Make It a Game!
- My family and I use chorewars.com to make chores a game. We use the "gold" to buy drinks, cupcakes, or music for the person who spent them. 200g is worth $5 worth of fun :) Editor's Note: Reviews of chorewars.com are available at http://news.cnet.com/8301-10784_3-9800680-7.html and at http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/12/31/AR2008123100907.html
- —sub_ubi
Chores
- A point to consider is the difference between what the wife feels needs to be done and what the husband considers needing attention (emphasis on feeling). A room that a wife feels should be painted baby blue and the husband should help but doesn't want to is seen as not doing his share. BUT the husband who just painted the same room yellow one year ago because she felt (emphasis on felt) would brighten the room, considers the room just fine as it is now and was one year ago. POINT - don't beat up on the guy just because she feels (emphasis on feels) something (anything) needs to be done. Sounds like choreplay to me.
- —Guest Bob
Make a List
- We found having a list of chores and discussing it each Sunday evening and deciding who is going to do what during the week works for us.
- —Jordan
